Mind States: Giving versus Need

The less needy you are the more you have to give, as you aren’t focused on yourself.

The problem with neediness is it takes on many forms, skillfully camouflaging and cloaking itself in the ego’s effort to survive.  The trick is (not really a trick) is you can always feel this.

Let go, relax, and enjoy both life and thoughts as they arrive.


Mind States: More Enjoyment, Less Method

One thing I took from the Neville Goddard books listed below, is I’m still a bit of a tight ass when it comes to training and life in general…

Methods are great, but the key is understanding the principle behind the method.  Once you understand the principle you can adapt and customize in a way that is personally joyful and spontaneous.

What’s most important after all, is coming at our passion like a kid with a summer day ahead.  The rest is details!



March 2017 Journal

Crazy month.

Have a ton of hobbies and realized I make myself nuts with them, as any amount of time I take off, I feel a little guilty.  Kinda crazy when the whole object is positive feeling.

So yeah, re-set button; laid low, but did do some of the following… (more than I thought!)

Law of Attraction books:  Haven’t read any new-age books in probably over 10 years, but was interested in subconscious learning and stumbled onto author Neville Goddard and his books on the cheap at Audible.com: ‘Out of This World’ by Neville Goddard; ‘Control Your Inner Conversations’ by Neville Goddard; ‘Feeling is the Secret’ by Neville Goddard; ‘Manefestation Through Relaxation’ by Neville Goddard, Tim Grimes; ‘Relax More, Try Less’ by Neville Goddard, Tim Grimes; ‘The Relaxation Manifesto’ by Tim Grimes.

Other books:  ‘Insane Clown President: Dispatches from the 2016 Circus’ by Matt Taibbi; ‘Providence, Act 1’ by Alan Moore, Jacen Burrows; ‘The Elephant in the Room’ by Jon Ronson;  ‘At the Mountains of Madness’ by H.P. Lovecraft.

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Magic/Mentalism:  ‘P.A.T.H.S.’ by Matt Mello; ‘The Decode Project’ by Matt Mello.

Movies/Media:  More Richard Matheson adapted Edgar Allen Poe starring Vincent Price with the ‘The Raven (with young Jack Nicholson), and ‘Pit and the Pendulum.’ ‘Logan’ was a brilliant Hugh Jackman swan song that exceeded all expectations; ‘American Sniper.’

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Jiu-Jitsu:  Henry Akins Guard Passing, Cross-Side Escapes, and Leg Work from Open Guard.  Note:  Henry’s understanding of Jiu-Jitsu is so much deeper than mine, I’ve pretty much stopped Jiu-Jitsu blogging and spend time learning from him instead.

Training: 3 Focused Learnin’ Areas

Big on 3’s right now; have no idea why…

3 areas of focus in words: Fun, Legacy, & Competence.

Fun topical focus is doing whatever the hell you feel like focusing on in a given moment.  While this sounds a bit lazy, it actually allows room for your subconscious to flow and give you access to information that isn’t readily available when you try to plan every step of your Jiu-Jitsu path.  It’s Zen sh*t:  Focus with no focus.

Legacy topical focus is kinda the opposite of the above, even though it’s still fun.  It’s focusing on a specific topic at least 6 months.  6 months isn’t written in stone, but the idea is we are in an LTR with a position instead of hopping from bed to bed.  This is where we build depth of understanding.  We’re disciplined here: Zen sh*t.

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Competence topical focus will be defined as taking the soberest look possible at our game and addressing holes as they come up.  These holes will generally be revealed in sparring or by a coach.  This isn’t by nature as fun as fun (unless our attitude is humble and gracious), and we aren’t going to suss out holes in a legacy project because that’s more apt to be a strength than anything else.  Honesty: Zen sh*t too.

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Mind States: Mental Trifecta for Performance Part 2 – Fun

With fun, we have two types of fun:  One is lighthearted and renewing; while the other is tension fueled escapism.

The difference is awareness.

In some respects it’s easy to get the escapism and awareness based fun confused because they both can feel great, but awareness based fun is generally more relaxed and subtle.

To Jiu-Jitsu, awareness based fun enhances everything we do and/or steers us back in the right direction.  Yes, you can still have worldly success without it, but you’ll likely be out of balance and won’t enjoy it ala Scrooge:

On the other hand, with an ‘aloha’ fun in mind, you can have everything with nothing.  It’s all about the feeling!:


Mind States: Mental Trifecta for Performance Part 1

To attain an extremely high level of performance we have to do lots of stuff, and do that stuff well.

In the mid-2000s my training partners and coaches talked a lot about fun, which, as we’ll see in the coming posts is indispensable and awesome, but I wasn’t training that smart or frequent at the time! =)

So, 10 years later, having realized ‘fun’ doesn’t necessarily translate to getting things done, have come up with a mental trifecta of sorts:  Fun, Smart, Frequency.

World class work means we’re doing all three.  We’ll examine the definition and utility of fun, smart, and frequency in depth is future posts…